5 calming rituals to feel grounded and in control at home
Ever feel like you’re not entirely in control?
Like you’re the lead character in your own life—but someone else is pulling the strings?
Maybe it’s the to-do list. The group chat. The laundry. The general vibe of 2024.
We’ve all had those days where we feel more like a slightly frazzled doll being played by a tiny chaotic child than an actual functioning adult.
And while we can’t always change what’s happening around us, we can ground ourselves with small, intentional rituals that bring us back to centre.
If I came in a box, my accessories would include: a journal, a strong coffee, a messy bun, and a candle—always a candle.
Because when things get a little wobbly, these are the rituals that help me reset, breathe, and feel in control again.
You don’t need a lifestyle overhaul or a Pinterest-perfect routine—just a few flickers of intention and a moment to pause.
Here are five calming rituals you can try at home to help you feel grounded, steady, and more like yourself again.
1. Light first, scroll later
Before the emails start piling up or the breakfast dishes hit the sink, take a beat.
- Light a candle.
- Take a deep breath.
- Set an intention for the day—even something as simple as “I’ll try to be kind to myself.”
This mini ritual sets a calm, focused tone for your day—and helps you feel a little more in control before the chaos kicks in.
Affirmation: “I choose calm. I begin my day with purpose.”
Try this: Morning Myrtle – fresh, grounding, and full of “I’ve got this” energy.
2. When it all goes sideways… light something soothing
Bad day? Big emotions? Overstimulated? Instead of trying to push through, pause.
Choose a calming scent, light a flame, and let that soft glow remind you: you get to begin again.
It’s not about pretending everything’s fine. It’s about giving yourself a reset and shifting toward a more mindful, growth-oriented perspective.
Affirmation: “This moment is my reset. I can begin again.”
Try this: Sweet Pea & Jasmine – like a gentle reset button for your nervous system.
3. Journal by candlelight
You don’t need to be a “dear diary” kind of person to benefit from journaling.
Just grab a notebook and let your thoughts spill out—even for five minutes.
Worries, dreams, ideas, overthinking spirals—get it all out. Journaling by candlelight creates a calm, distraction-free vibe that helps your brain slow down and reflect.
Affirmation: “I give myself space to feel, to reflect, and to grow.”
Try this: French Vanilla & Bourbon – warm, nostalgic, and made for night thoughts.
4. Celebrate your tiny triumphs
Finished the thing you’ve been putting off? Said “no” when you usually say yes?
Made it through the school run without yelling? That’s a win.
Light your favourite candle, take a breath, and let yourself feel proud.
Recognising small wins helps rewire your mindset toward growth, progress, and possibility.
Affirmation: “I honour my effort. Progress is worth celebrating.”
Try this: Champagne & Strawberries – because even everyday victories deserve bubbles.
5. Anchor positive thoughts with scent
Your brain loves repetition. When you pair a certain scent with a positive affirmation, your body starts to remember that feeling every time you smell it.
Try this: light a candle, stand tall, and say something like:
“I’m learning. I’m growing. I’ve got this.”
Let the scent become your anchor when things feel wobbly.
Affirmation: “With every breath, I grow more into who I’m becoming.”
Try this: Emerald Canopy – fresh, expansive, and perfect for “I’m evolving” energy.
A final flicker of thought...
Feeling grounded, calm, and in control doesn’t require a full lifestyle overhaul.
Just light a candle. Take a breath. Begin again.
These rituals might seem simple—but they carry power.
They’re tiny reminders that you’re allowed to pause, reflect, reset—and grow.
And if you're ever feeling off, just imagine your own accessory kit:
📔 Your journal
🕯️ A grounding scent
💬 A kind thought
📦 And a little label that reads: Real-Life Muse in Motion.
